Failure to Launch Therapy for Young Adults and Parents

When Your Young Adult Feels Stuck

Is your adult child home from college, not looking for a job, or rarely leaving the house? Many parents feel caught in the same cycle — wanting to help, but also feeling frustrated, worried, and unsure what to do next.

This situation is often called “failure to launch.” It’s more common than you think, and there are proven ways forward.

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What Is Failure to Launch?

“Failure to launch” describes young adults who struggle to step into independence. They may:

  • Avoid work, school, or social responsibilities
  • Spend long hours isolated in their room or online
  • Rely heavily on parents for financial or emotional support
  • Resist taking steps toward independence

It’s not laziness — it’s often tied to deeper struggles.

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Why Young Adults Struggle (Anxiety, Depression, ADHD)

Many young adults facing “failure to launch” are coping with:

  • Anxiety or depression that sap confidence and motivation
  • ADHD that makes planning, organization, and follow-through overwhelming
  • Fear of failure or avoidance of stressors like school, jobs, or social life

When these challenges combine with family stress, it can feel nearly impossible for them to move forward without help.

How Parent Accommodations Keep Families Stuck

Parents often adjust routines to reduce conflict or shield their child from distress. Common accommodations include:

  • Making phone calls or filling out applications for them
  • Covering expenses with no plan for independence
  • Excusing them from responsibilities or chores
  • Driving them places when they’re capable of going on their own

These accommodations come from love, but they can unintentionally keep avoidance in place and make it harder for young adults to launch.

SPACE Intervention: A Proven Approach

I specialize in SPACE (Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions), a research-based treatment developed at the Yale Child Study Center. Unlike traditional therapy that focuses only on the young adult, SPACE empowers parents to make meaningful change.

With SPACE, parents learn how to:

  • Stay supportive and connected while reducing accommodations
  • Respond to anxiety, depression, or ADHD behaviors without enabling them
  • Encourage responsibility and independence without escalating conflict
  • Restore peace and cooperation at home

Even if your young adult isn’t willing to attend therapy, parents can create change that shifts the entire family dynamic.

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Work With a Certified SPACE-Trained Therapist

As a Certified SPACE-trained therapist, I bring specialized training in this proven approach. Families I work with often feel relief knowing:

  • They don’t have to wait for their child to agree to therapy
  • Small changes in parenting patterns can lead to big shifts
  • They’re using structured, evidence-based methods that work

Get Help for Your Young Adult Today

If your adult child is living at home, not working or going to school, and struggling with anxiety, depression, or ADHD, there is hope. Together, we’ll help you reduce unhelpful accommodations, strengthen support, and create a path toward independence.

Schedule a consultation today and start breaking the cycle of “failure to launch.”